Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no; it is an ever-fixed mark, That looks on tempests, and is never shaken; It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken. Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle’s compass come; Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error, and upon me prov’d, I never writ, nor no man ever lov’d.
– William Shakepeare, Sonnet 116
Today is the 29th anniversary of my parents’ marriage. They are completing 29 years and entering the 30th. And although neither my dad nor my mom read this blog (or even know of its existence, which allows me the freedom of speech :D) I wish them a Very Happy Anniversary. And for the information of those readers who are calling me a douchebag for wishing them online, here, of course, I have wished them in person. This is my way of expressing the admiration I have for them
I find it incredibly hard to believe that two people could co-exist and still be happy for this long a time period (there we go again!). I personally find it hard to keep going on with people after 30 minutes if they are not on the same page with me (and most people aren’t). So, for two people as different as my mom and dad, I find this to be an incredible miracle.
They went out in the morning to the temple to offer their prayers (we are an intensely religious family). Then dad went to work. He came back early, and took mom out for an evening outside. Catch a movie, drive around a bit, maybe, and then get a grand dinner. I intentionally stayed out of this whole thing because I figured its been some time since they went out together, and could do with some time off. When they come back, I am hoping they get me some take away Chinese food for Dinner. Also, we get to celebrate a bit as a family, when, later tonight they cut a cake to celebrate the moment when their relationship was sanctified.
This leaves me in a bit of a lurch. Several of my friends are getting hitched – this year and the next. I wonder how is it possible to tolerate someone around you, 24×7, and not grow weary of them. I guess this goes a long way to show why none of my relationships ever worked out!
Anyways. I got my own shit to sort out. But for today, I wish my Mom and Dad a great day. I wish and pray that their happiness stays unabated and grows over time. I just want to tell them that they are the best parents a kid could have asked for and I am what I am today, largely because of them.
This one’s for you, folks. 🙂
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Congratulations to your parents! Happy Anniversary!
How beautiful! Congrats to your parents! It’s a rare find these days to know of any couple married for so many years. You asked how is it possible to tolerate someone around you, 24×7, and not grow weary of them, for starters, I truly believe you have be open to want to love and be loved that is unconditional, know that to whomever you choose to share your love with is not and will not be perfect by ones own standards, that is where character comes into play, you have to be aware of the person that you are, that requires maturity, and communication is vital it takes patience to be a good listener. These skills are easily obtained when you first have the foundation, and role models and it sounds like you’re off to a good start. There is someone special and waiting for each and every one of us, we just have to be patience, open, and the willingness to listen to the world around us, you just never know when, where or with whom you’ll find love. Need confirmation? Just ask your parents.
Wow. First up, thanks for the wishes, and kind words.
Next: although I have a great example to emulate, I am unfortunately a bit of a relationship messer upper. 😛
Hi, sorry I’m late been busy. If I may, I’d like to add to this post. Perhaps the reason you may feel like a “messer-upper” could be you’re not focused… that’s not a bad thing. It just means your focus right now (as it appears to me) is that to what is important to you. You’re focus and commitment is to your career, no doubt the study of medicine requires dedication, “commitment”, and focus. The definition to commit says it all: “promise devotion: to pledge devotion or dedication to somebody or something”. How we choose to achieve and keep to this commitment is up to us. Let’s take you for instance your career of choice is medicine you won’t have chosen this career path if you didn’t feel you had what it takes, interest, passion, dedication to want it, in fact I dare to say with all of it’s challenges you must love what you do, right? Choose a career you’re not dedicated to or passionate about, you’re miserable, right? The same is true for relationships when you choose to have a meaningful relationship and are ready to commit, it all has a way of falling into place. When you’re ready to focus and commit, it will come. Does that make sense? I hope I haven’t overstepped my boundaries.
Thanks. VERY well said. Your argument naturally incites the question whether it is possible to be committed to two different, but somewhat overlapping issues in life. I must say I have considered this before, on a number of occasions, and maybe someday, I will have the guts to blog about it. But very well said, I particularly agree on the point of chossing careers one is not passionate about. That is very essential.
Thanks for the thought!
Wow, 29 years, that’s great. The more I see of marriage, the more I realize how hard it is. But worthwhile, I think.
🙂 It is a complicated institution, this!